October 01, 2006

The sad with the funny.......

.....the good with the bad.....the balance of life.....F**K why does it have to be soooooooo damn hard?????

A bit of hilarity in amongst the chaos..........

I was at my sister's this weekend going through endless boxes of our Dad's various boxes....our Dad kept every little thing imaginable....really quite incredible!! I worry sometimes that I am a pack-rat but really my storage spaces are pristine compared to what some of his were. We lost track of how many boxes there were that looked like, on moving day, someone had opened up the desk drawers and dumped the contents into a box, sealed em up and sent em on their way......just like that....only to be kept sealed just as they were some 20-40 years later!! We moved a great deal all while growing up so there were alot of these kinds of boxes......not to mention the boxes filled with expired credit cards, matchbooks, batteries, pens & pencils, restaurant menus, coupons, random receipts, RSVP'd party invitations from people nobody knows today.......did you know that back then it was customary to put your RSVP's in writing???

This is about the 4th or 5th time that my sister and I have gotten together to sort through Dad's stuff.....our Dad suffers from Dementia and has recently been moved to a nursing home from his retirement home. He had to be moved as he was getting to be too much for the retirement home to handle....he no longer has the gift of speech which was probably one of his greatest gifts....a large part of his life was devoted to public speaking of various types, debating, wheeling and dealing and generally high powered social interactions.....so to see him how he is now is almost more than I can bear.....but I have to constantly remind myself that if it is almost more than I can bear....I can only imagine what it must be like for him.....THAT thought is enough to reduce me almost instantly to a puddle of tears.

Oh dear....bit of a tangent there.....anyway....in amongst some of his stuff......because of course you want to go through it all JUST in case there is something sentimental that might be a keeper (more on that for another post)......was this.......



It looked so official we had to really read all of it to figure out it was a joke!! Check out who signed the thing.....ROFLMAO!!!! It provided us some much needed bittersweet relief for the onerous task we were involved in at the time....for you see our Dad was also a lover of a well-timed good joke and he had a wonderful sense of humour.....nothing ever seemed to get him down a whole lot....in many ways he was a pretty laid back fellow with an eternal optimist kind of attitude towards life!!!

One of his favourites were always limericks........and he had a TON of them just waiting to be told. My favourite part was always....once we got older....he would tell us some of the more "racier" or inappropriate limericks...but when it came to the inappropriate word he would just mumble it...but of course it didn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what the word was!!! Then we would all bust up laughing and he would have a mischievous twinkle in his eye while my mother would usually be rolling her eyes heavenward....wondering what on earth she had done to deserve this crazy lot!!!

10 peeps just sayin':

SassyFemme said...

Your dad sounds like a wonderful man! My dad had alz/dementia, too, btw. The disease that just totally sucks.

Love that back seat driver's license! I think I may have to download and photoshop it for my wife! Hee hee.

Trish said...

No one was a pack rat like dad...you don't even come close.

Now, scented candles on the other hand...?

This back seat driver license is very funny. It did have us fooled for a while there didn't it. Glad you posted it because I will have to print one off and issue it to myself for when C or A are behind the wheel. I can't just sit in the back and not give driving advice...this will be my LICENSE to do so!

Syd said...

So sorry about your dad. Must be incredibly hard on you and your sister. Good that you both seem to have such a great sense of humor.

Apparently, you got it honestly. That license is a riot!!

pog mo thoin said...

Your dad sounds great. I think that remembering these things about him is a great tribute to him.

WenWhit said...

Hey Boo (I'm SO gonna hear Scout from To Kill A Mockingbird everytime I type that) -

Anyway, came your way from Syd's madhouse - nice site you have here. I appreciate your sense of humor. :)

I cannot really relate to what you're going through with your dad's illness... but it's obvious you love your daddy and THAT I do understand. I am so sorry. I have no words.

Thanks for sharing. I'll be back.

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r.d. said...

Sorry to have come over on such a rough day but it sounds like you've made it through the rain. I'm sorry about your dad. I'm sorry for everyone who has to go through that. See you around.

greymatters said...

A lovely, lovely post. I am sorry about your Father.

Karitown said...

Love the back seat drivers liscense. too funny. I need that for my family. Sorry about your dad. I had an uncle like that. Very sad.

Swishy said...

That must be so hard for you and your family! My thoughts are with you.

Boo7 said...

ty ty ty for everyone's well wishes....they are most appreciated....:)